Key Takeaway: Starting college means starting a new chapter. And in a season filled with a lot of “new,” parents can be a valuable resource for advice, encouragement, and support. As you head off to college, we’ve gathered some advice and encouragement for academics, personal growth, time management, and friendships that we hope you take to heart as you begin this new experience.
Parents’ Advice for Kids Heading to College
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You are heading off to college, ready to forge your own path and you will! Along the way, you’ll encounter new challenges, opportunities, and experiences. You’ll also grow and learn, both inside and outside of the classroom.
While you are the author of your own story, remember that some people have walked the same path as you and want to support you as best as possible—parents. So, as you take on this exciting new chapter, here are some words of encouragement, wise advice, and tips from parents:
For When You Need Academic Guidance…
- “Don’t be afraid to meet with your professors in person. Approach them. Ask questions. Show up for their office hours. If they know your name and your face it will always serve you well during the semester. They may offer you special opportunities or even extra credit when needed.” —Liz R.
- “The elevator to success is out of order. You’ll have to use the stairs, one step at a time.” —Joe G.
- Don’t be afraid to change your plans. It’s okay if your major, career path, or even school might not be the right fit for you. You can always explore different options.
For When You Need a Broader Perspective…
- “It isn’t just about taking classes and earning a degree – this is the time to explore, discover, and grow. Push yourself out of your comfort zone and try new things. These connections and experiences will shape your college life and your future.” —Amy B.
- “Take advantage of your opportunity to travel abroad FOR credit! There is nothing like experiencing different cultures and educational experiences around the world. Classes taught in unique places often lead to tours of so many wonderful locations. Plus, you can explore on your own during the weekends. It makes travel and sightseeing a part of your college expenses and experience.” —Liz R.
- Your academics are important, but remember to make time for activities that relax and rejuvenate you, whether it’s exercise, spending time in nature, or catching up with a friend over coffee. Your college experience is more than just grades, it’s about becoming the best version of you.
For When You Feel Like You Can’t Balance It All…
- “Your success in college will depend less on the amount of time you spend studying, and more on how you choose to spend all that free time.” —Allison H.
- “Perfect is the enemy of good. Just get it done. You can always revise and improve but if you try to start with perfection you can end up handcuffing yourself to the point where you don’t get anything done.” —Alex S.
- “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” —Winston Churchill
- “Balance is not something you find; it’s something you create.” —Jana Kingsford
- “You can’t control someone else, but you have total control over your own actions and emotions. The important thing is that you clearly define for yourself what you want and need and then do those things first.” —Carl J. S.
For When You’re Building Friendships…
- “Socially, you should ‘judge slowly.’ Sometimes excitement and eagerness can lead you into impetuous decisions which you may regret later. So take your time with your decisions.” —Alex S.
- “Making new friends takes time. Don’t think you have to find ‘your people’ on day one!” —Allison H.
- Be yourself, show interest in others, and support your friends when they need you. Remember, it takes effort from both sides to build and maintain a strong bond.
- When looking for friends who share the same interests, consider joining a club or organization to build connections with like-minded students.
Make your own way, but don’t forget about the ones who have been there too. Parents—and really anyone who is older than you who has experienced college—can offer helpful advice for when you feel stuck or overwhelmed or just want someone to talk to.
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